So you are intelligent, pretty, funny, you have a good dress sense, and still can’t seem to have a lasting relationship?
There are obviously a 101 reasons why things do not make it past the initial stage. We are all complex creatures and no one woman can satisfy the needs of every man . So the bitter pill to swallow is that, if it didn’t work past a certain stage; He’s just not that into you! Watched the movie? Read the book? Read it again. No problem! Get over it, move on. Not all guys are worth your time either. And any guy that isn’t giving you the time, is not worth yours. I don’t care how appealing, caring, funny, charming, rich or ‘nice’ he is. Now before any 5 ‘things’ are discussed, it is important for all girls to do one thing. If you can do this one thing, you can bypass all tips and steps. Are you ready for it girls? LOVE YOURSELVES.
I don’t mean conceit, as conceit is just a cover-up for insecurities. I mean accept and appreciate every good and bad part of your being. See yourself as a work in progress and thank God that you have so much to be grateful for. You see I've learnt at the University of Hard- Knocks that when you don’t love yourself, you don’t develop emotional intelligence (E.Q). Girls who have low E.Q's engage in behaviours such as these.
• Settle for a half decent man because she doesn’t want to be alone.
• Settle for a man who is with another woman but who promises her she is the only one for him. (Does that even make sense?)
• Settles for a man who promises her the world but delivers nothing or very little.
• Settles for a man who lies or cheats. If he does one or the other; he is doing both.
• Settles for a man who is emotionally unavailable.
• Settles for a man who buys her everything, but is dating her on his terms. And lets her know who’s the boss.
• Settles for a man who abuses her in any way; physically, emotionally and mentally.
You can be as intelligent as a rocket scientist but if you don’t have emotional intelligence, your smarts count for nothing. A girl (or guy) who doesn’t love herself can do some crazy things because she is not driven by logic, but by her primal need to be loved. So let your primary relationship be with yourself, accept, love and respect yourself and you will find yourself attracting into your life someone who treats you the same way.
That being said. You meet a guy, you hit it off instantly. There is a good flow of conversation, he seems genuinely interested in what you have to say, and you feel the same. You discover you see eye to eye on so many things. He starts flirting (great sign) and you return the favour. He promises to call you the next day, and he does! This call leads to a second and third date, everything is going GREAT and you think that this man is almost definitely ‘The One’.
Mistake no. 1
Don’t make him ‘The One’ while you are still ‘a possibility’.
When women get to this stage of the dating game we are pretty sure of our instincts. The guy is giving all the right signs, and it is obvious that there is a strong connection between you two. You might even call it love at first sight! The truth is that we women see ‘forever after’ way sooner than our male friends. A guy might meet you spend a lot of time with you and still see you as a very interesting person who he could possibly want to spend more time with. And as hard as it maybe to accept he might still be seeing other women, while sharing these warm fussy feelings with you. There are even some men who date a woman for years and still see her as a possibilty. You see in his mind he is still going through the sorting process. He is still a single man who is gathering information, and weighing up his options. Some men conveniently gather information for long periods of time.
So then why do we run to commit ourselves when there are so many men to enjoy!! I don’t mean sleeping around. I mean date other guys! Enjoy their company! Enjoy the flirting! Have fun!! You are not in a relationship so stop acting like it! You might wonder how this will affect your ‘potential relationship’? This is not about making the potential guy jealous. It’s about you not making a ‘potential’, ‘The One’ and it’s about you enjoying your life. And the truth is; this is wildly attractive to a man to any man. Unless of course he’s a controlling loser, in which case it’s better to get rid of him sooner than later.
Word to the wise: Never commit yourself to a man who has not asked you to be his girlfriend or who has not made it clear that he would like to take it to the next level, in which case feel free to ask him for clarity.
Mistake no. 2
Do not chase him!
Let the guy come to you, out of his own. Men are hunters, it’s in their D.N.A. Do not chase him under any circumstances. And stop making excuses for him! I’ve been down this road many times before. His phone got lost/stolen/ended up in his fish tank? There are public phones. He said you must call him? If he’s interested he’ll make the effort. He’s shy? Most men fear being rejected. But any guy will tell you; If he is interested enough he’ll make the move. Let him do the work at the beginning. I know a lot of the times we want to believe that this guy likes us so much that we are willing to believe any story but if he isn’t chasing he isn’t interested. Now let’s pretend for a moment that this guy really does like you, but is really, really super busy. Don’t you think that your constant calling can be a bit irritating when he is trying to get his work done? Think about it.
Mistake no.3
Do not reassure him!
So your potential guy asks you if you are going out on Saturday, and you respond ‘Yes, I am’, he asks with whom and you respond, ‘Oh, don’t worry it’s just friends. It’s a girls night!’ and then start giving a list of your girlfriends names. Or even worse you say ‘ Why do you want to do something? I can cancel?’ WRONG !! WRONG!!
If you are going out with friends then tell him the truth but do not be apologetic about it. You don’t owe him anything. If you have made plans with your girlfriends, don’t make it sound of less importance and do not cancel your appointments just because he is available. A guy loves a bit of a challenge, at least at the beginning of a relationship. Keep the mystery, keep him guessing a bit. As confirmed by my boyfriend; a man doesn’t like to be too secure at beginning. Please do not be fooled by the guy who acts offended by the fact that you would rather spend time with other people than him. His insecurities are his problem.
Mistake no.4
Don’t talk about problems and don’t over talk! So many girls bitch and moan, and quite frankly men don’t want to hear about it all the time! This is the stage in the relationship where you are getting to know each other, through the discovery of your pasts. And not everyone’s past is pleasant. Speak about it, but don’t harp on it. Tell your truth honestly but end it on a up -beat note. Also don’t moan and bitch about other girls and the people at work, and the weather and the crime rate!!! We all want to be with someone who can brighten our day. Guys think like this; ‘If she finds fault with everything else around her. Imagine what she’ll be like when she is in an serious relationship and starts discovering my faults!’ Leave gossip and analysing problems for your nights with your best friend. Be a good conversationalist. Make someone comfortable and happy to be in your presence. And they’ll keep coming back for more.
Mistake no.5
Don’t get sooo heavy!
This is a new guy. He isn’t all your exes stuffed into one pants, so don’t make him pay for their mistakes (or seen as you chose your exes, I should say your mistakes ;-)). He wasn’t the one who cheated behind your back with your close friend, so he doesn’t need to hear how you think that all men are lying bastards. Keep it light! Have fun with him. Keep the exes out of it!
You are Devine! You are simply wonderful ! Fall in love with you! And enjoy this ever so short trip called life. And before you know it...I mean in the blink of an eye. There will be so many possibilities knocking at Your Door!! And then you can choose what is best for you.
Lots of love xxxx
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Follow Your Bliss
" I say, follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open
where you didn't know they were going to be"
Joseph Campbell
If you ever want to know if you are on the right path always remember that; It feels good when you go for the things that are good for you! Always gravitate toward the things and people that make you feel good about yourself and life. Do this everytime without exception and you will soon find yourself not just following bliss but living in it!
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Are we programmed to be fearful and insecure?
Somewhere along the line...(and the line spans over centuries). We humans have traded our true identities in for false ones. For the purpose of this article, I will refer to ones identity as ones consciousness. For our consciousness is nothing more than what we allow in our awareness. And our identity is based on what we identify with in our awareness.
So our beliefs and actions stems from who we think we are. Who we think we are is our identity, and our identity is formed by what we identify with in our past and present awareness. Now this is the catch. What is ‘out there’ is INFINITELY greater than your current awareness. I also know that what is ‘in here’ is INFINITELY greater than your current awareness. I know this by experience, by reading stories of other peoples experiences and because all holy scriptures throughout the ages have always had the same message that, ‘We are made in the image and likeness of our creator’ and that ‘We are powerful beyond measure.’
I also know for sure that we live in a universe of absolute ABUNDANCE. How do I know that? You need only look around you! We were not given one flower to appreciate but thousands. Not just one colour but hundreds. We were not given one sunrise or sunset, not one star to gaze up at. Not one type of animal but thousands . Not one fish but hundreds of thousands. Not one grain of sand, but trillions. We have not one drop of water but oceans, and rivers and lakes and streams. Not just one tree to give shade but thousands. Insects, birds, mountains, beaches, animals, fruit, vegetables, water, flowers, trees, minerals and land etc.
We have an abundance of natural resources on this planet, so many resources that each person can live more than comfortably on this earth. Not only have we been given so much natural resources but also human, the talents and unique capabilities that exists amongst us are immeasurable. We are blessed!
So where does all this fear come from? This consciousness of scarcity? Where does this vision of lack come from? Why do we see all these hopeless situations? Why do we feel powerless, insignificant, less than, and insecure? You need only turn on the TV and pick up the daily newspapers, most religious institutions teach it, listen to the local gossip, or listen to your favourite radio station. It is everywhere! We are being bombarded on a daily basis with negative headlines of FEAR; crises, FEAR, economic depression, FEAR, war, FEAR, crime, FEAR, poverty, FEAR, unemployment and once again FEAR. You are told on a daily basis how you don’t measure up, how you are less than. You are too fat, too poor, not educated enough, the wrong religion, too black or too white, you were born in the wrong country, you have the wrong dress sense you follow the wrong political party, you drive an old car. FEAR! FEAR! FEAR! The only power which they make you believe you have is the power to vote for a particular political party! FEAR!
Do you know that the same headlines of economic crises, depression and war. Were on the front covers of Time magazine and other newspaper headlines in the 1930’s, 1940’s, 1980’s, 1990’s and 2000’s? So what is the difference now? None. Bad news sells. They know that! They know that a newspaper is much more likely to sell if it has headlines of doom, than if it has a headline about how people are saving the rain forest by planting trees! Do you honestly think that these good, humanitarian efforts don’t go on, on a daily basis? They do! A majority of people however are just not interested in hearing about it.
You see we humans have been brainwashed to believe that we are weak, and powerless. And so the best we can do is vote for a particular political party and hope for the best. While in the meantime, we do the only thing we know how to do....ENTERTAIN ourselves! Movies, Ipods, computer games, facebook,fashion magazines, gossip and being mesmerized by bad news. While we put in long hours climbing the corporate ladder, trying to be the best so that hopefully we can feel less insecure about ourselves. But it’s never enough is it? Because they keep telling you, that you aren’t enough, that the world is going into deeper crises. So you must accumulate more, strive more be afraid more.
Do you think this is by accident? Do you not think that someone could have an invested interested in keeping you struggling and entertained. Keeping you mesmerized? Of course you don’t! Who the hell would be interested in you! Insignificant, powerless, insecure you. I’m not much of a conspiracy theorist but I do believe that there are a group of people who are brainwashing us to have a scarcity consciousness. To keep us feeling insecure and little. Because when we don’t believe that we are powerful or that there is enough for everyone; we fight for scraps and then we are content with the scraps we have. And we don’t ask questions as to why many have none, and few have insane amounts of resources. And in exchange they keep us entertained.
And that my dear friends is why 10% of the population earn 90% of all the money, and have all of the power.
So our beliefs and actions stems from who we think we are. Who we think we are is our identity, and our identity is formed by what we identify with in our past and present awareness. Now this is the catch. What is ‘out there’ is INFINITELY greater than your current awareness. I also know that what is ‘in here’ is INFINITELY greater than your current awareness. I know this by experience, by reading stories of other peoples experiences and because all holy scriptures throughout the ages have always had the same message that, ‘We are made in the image and likeness of our creator’ and that ‘We are powerful beyond measure.’
I also know for sure that we live in a universe of absolute ABUNDANCE. How do I know that? You need only look around you! We were not given one flower to appreciate but thousands. Not just one colour but hundreds. We were not given one sunrise or sunset, not one star to gaze up at. Not one type of animal but thousands . Not one fish but hundreds of thousands. Not one grain of sand, but trillions. We have not one drop of water but oceans, and rivers and lakes and streams. Not just one tree to give shade but thousands. Insects, birds, mountains, beaches, animals, fruit, vegetables, water, flowers, trees, minerals and land etc.
We have an abundance of natural resources on this planet, so many resources that each person can live more than comfortably on this earth. Not only have we been given so much natural resources but also human, the talents and unique capabilities that exists amongst us are immeasurable. We are blessed!
So where does all this fear come from? This consciousness of scarcity? Where does this vision of lack come from? Why do we see all these hopeless situations? Why do we feel powerless, insignificant, less than, and insecure? You need only turn on the TV and pick up the daily newspapers, most religious institutions teach it, listen to the local gossip, or listen to your favourite radio station. It is everywhere! We are being bombarded on a daily basis with negative headlines of FEAR; crises, FEAR, economic depression, FEAR, war, FEAR, crime, FEAR, poverty, FEAR, unemployment and once again FEAR. You are told on a daily basis how you don’t measure up, how you are less than. You are too fat, too poor, not educated enough, the wrong religion, too black or too white, you were born in the wrong country, you have the wrong dress sense you follow the wrong political party, you drive an old car. FEAR! FEAR! FEAR! The only power which they make you believe you have is the power to vote for a particular political party! FEAR!
Do you know that the same headlines of economic crises, depression and war. Were on the front covers of Time magazine and other newspaper headlines in the 1930’s, 1940’s, 1980’s, 1990’s and 2000’s? So what is the difference now? None. Bad news sells. They know that! They know that a newspaper is much more likely to sell if it has headlines of doom, than if it has a headline about how people are saving the rain forest by planting trees! Do you honestly think that these good, humanitarian efforts don’t go on, on a daily basis? They do! A majority of people however are just not interested in hearing about it.
You see we humans have been brainwashed to believe that we are weak, and powerless. And so the best we can do is vote for a particular political party and hope for the best. While in the meantime, we do the only thing we know how to do....ENTERTAIN ourselves! Movies, Ipods, computer games, facebook,fashion magazines, gossip and being mesmerized by bad news. While we put in long hours climbing the corporate ladder, trying to be the best so that hopefully we can feel less insecure about ourselves. But it’s never enough is it? Because they keep telling you, that you aren’t enough, that the world is going into deeper crises. So you must accumulate more, strive more be afraid more.
Do you think this is by accident? Do you not think that someone could have an invested interested in keeping you struggling and entertained. Keeping you mesmerized? Of course you don’t! Who the hell would be interested in you! Insignificant, powerless, insecure you. I’m not much of a conspiracy theorist but I do believe that there are a group of people who are brainwashing us to have a scarcity consciousness. To keep us feeling insecure and little. Because when we don’t believe that we are powerful or that there is enough for everyone; we fight for scraps and then we are content with the scraps we have. And we don’t ask questions as to why many have none, and few have insane amounts of resources. And in exchange they keep us entertained.
And that my dear friends is why 10% of the population earn 90% of all the money, and have all of the power.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
A True Sense Of Self.
This blog is not about 'how to' be truly yourself or 'how to' gain a better sense of self. For a high self-esteem is something that is born out of many hours and pain and hard work! And there really is no short cut around this one. There are no '4 easy steps,' or 'One magic secret'. Each person has a unique set of insecurities that they acquired long ago, and developing a good self-esteem, comes from facing each one of those head on. Getting to the root of the problem, until it no longer affect you and your life.
What I felt like writing about today was how to identify a false sense of self; which is born from a perception of lack, and feelings of unworthiness. And another your true self, which is born from a perception of abundance and worthiness.
Sometimes it can be very hard to distinguish between the two. OK, so now I'll tell you why I think it is important to distinguish between the two. It's important for resolving conflict. It's important for you to know where you truly are on the scale of things and it is important for you to identify peoples' behaviours and motives.
For example; How many times has that person who works with you in your office just rubbed you up the wrong way when they boastfully want to give you advice on how to do your job, or when they try to belittle you in front of others? You know, the type of person who knows that they do a good job and LOVES telling everyone else how wonderful he or she thinks they are? Or the type of person who seems so powerful, who goes around intimidating those around them. The person 'You don't want to mess with.'
How would you feel about them if you knew that their behaviour is motivated by a feeling of weakness and fear?
There vulnerability seems so contrary to what they are showing on the outside. Let me tell you this....Nobody who feels good about themselves needs to be; boastful, snobbish, intimidating, rude, judgemental, envious,aggressive, a victim, or a down right bitch! These are all signs of someone who feels; less than, unworthy, insecure,hopeless and defenseless.
A true sense of self, is when you can look in the mirror (naked), and love what you see. When you can admire the person you are, when you can look at your behavioural imperfections and see them as points to grow on. When you can comfortably be happy with where you are at in life and when you can look away from yourself and into the world and be happy with what you see out there.
You can know that you are gaining a truer sense of self if you can identify yourself in this list; you truly are happy when someone gets a promotion, gets married or lives there dreams. You no longer need to compare yourself to others in anyway. You have less opinions of how other people should run their lives. You don't see your failures as a reason to beat up on yourself and give up. You are generally happy with your life. You are grateful more often. You love your body and you are not waiting for someone else to change before you are happy!
Remember there are billions of people on this earth, each one is uniquely different,not just physically but culturally, and with different talents which makes comparing such a big waste of time. I truly believe that if we spent less time measuring ourselves against others, our true selves would grow to immeasurable heights.
Tomorrows article is about why we feel so insecure to begin with! Where does that all come from.
What I felt like writing about today was how to identify a false sense of self; which is born from a perception of lack, and feelings of unworthiness. And another your true self, which is born from a perception of abundance and worthiness.
Sometimes it can be very hard to distinguish between the two. OK, so now I'll tell you why I think it is important to distinguish between the two. It's important for resolving conflict. It's important for you to know where you truly are on the scale of things and it is important for you to identify peoples' behaviours and motives.
For example; How many times has that person who works with you in your office just rubbed you up the wrong way when they boastfully want to give you advice on how to do your job, or when they try to belittle you in front of others? You know, the type of person who knows that they do a good job and LOVES telling everyone else how wonderful he or she thinks they are? Or the type of person who seems so powerful, who goes around intimidating those around them. The person 'You don't want to mess with.'
How would you feel about them if you knew that their behaviour is motivated by a feeling of weakness and fear?
There vulnerability seems so contrary to what they are showing on the outside. Let me tell you this....Nobody who feels good about themselves needs to be; boastful, snobbish, intimidating, rude, judgemental, envious,aggressive, a victim, or a down right bitch! These are all signs of someone who feels; less than, unworthy, insecure,hopeless and defenseless.
A true sense of self, is when you can look in the mirror (naked), and love what you see. When you can admire the person you are, when you can look at your behavioural imperfections and see them as points to grow on. When you can comfortably be happy with where you are at in life and when you can look away from yourself and into the world and be happy with what you see out there.
You can know that you are gaining a truer sense of self if you can identify yourself in this list; you truly are happy when someone gets a promotion, gets married or lives there dreams. You no longer need to compare yourself to others in anyway. You have less opinions of how other people should run their lives. You don't see your failures as a reason to beat up on yourself and give up. You are generally happy with your life. You are grateful more often. You love your body and you are not waiting for someone else to change before you are happy!
Remember there are billions of people on this earth, each one is uniquely different,not just physically but culturally, and with different talents which makes comparing such a big waste of time. I truly believe that if we spent less time measuring ourselves against others, our true selves would grow to immeasurable heights.
Tomorrows article is about why we feel so insecure to begin with! Where does that all come from.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Picking up the pieces and living your dreams.
I’m sure there comes a time in everyone’s life when one has to start a fresh. When the pieces of one’s life just don’t fit anymore. Whether it be one piece or four, things are just not as they used to be and you are left scratching your head thinking , “How did I get here?”
Sometimes things seem to fall apart all at once, sometimes (most of the times) it happens gradually. Until one day you realise that there is no going back, and that there is no clear path forward either. This is the most frustrating point because it feels as if the past has kicked you out into the cold, forcing you out of your cosy comfort zone, forcing you to admit the truth; that you just aren’t that happy anymore. But there you are kicking and screaming to get back in, and although things weren’t that great, anyplace is better than being homeless!!
Reality check: You are out in the cold and dark. You can’t go back and you are clueless as how to move forward. So what do you do now?
Breathe!! That’s step one: Do not underestimate step one as it oxygenates the brain cells!
Step two: Honestly write down what you think went wrong. Remember this is NOT about blaming someone else. It’s about making a true assessment of the situation. Giving up blame allows you to move forward. Playing the victim keeps you powerless and stuck. So what was it? A breakdown in communication? Bad money management? Bad judge of character? Were you over compensating or selfish?
Once you have identified the problem, ask yourself why? If you overcompensated in a relationship was it because you were afraid they wouldn’t stick around ? If you are in debt is it because you have never been taught how to work with money or save? By figuring out what it was, you can take active steps to not repeat the same mistake in the future.
Step three: Get a visual image of what you want your life to look like. Once you have figured out what you do not want, what you would not like to experience in your life; Do not focus on it! Now is the time to focus on what you do want your life to look like. I’m willing to bet that people who did not get the life they dreamed of, did not dream of that life often enough. They say that the mind cannot tell the difference between an imagined event and a real one. I know that when I visualise myself healthy and strong, doing exercises and eating healthy food, I immediately feel a rush of energy, I involuntarily feel my body moving and I feel stronger! Now you just have to keep that picture in mind long enough to move with it.
Step four: Once you have the picture in mind, you have to move with it. Moving with it means that you have to take symbolic actions in the direction of the dream. If you want to go on holiday in Croatia for example; start planning it! Go online to see the sights, check out the local dishes, see which hotels you would like to stay in and check out flight availability for the date you would like to leave. I dreamed of going to Italy and started learning Italian way before it was even a possibility for me to go, but once I got there I could already communicate. In short, in your mind you should be living your dream more than you live the ‘reality’ of your situation.
Caution: There is a part of the brain, mine at least that will caution me to be realistic. Do not listen to it! It is pessimism gift wrapped as realism. Reality is a just a current assessment of a current situation. The problem with our brains is that we get into an unpleasant situation and we think it will always be that way. Wrong! It wasn’t always that way and it doesn’t need to be either.
There is a way out of the cold but it takes a vision and persistence to find the path that’s right for you.
Sometimes things seem to fall apart all at once, sometimes (most of the times) it happens gradually. Until one day you realise that there is no going back, and that there is no clear path forward either. This is the most frustrating point because it feels as if the past has kicked you out into the cold, forcing you out of your cosy comfort zone, forcing you to admit the truth; that you just aren’t that happy anymore. But there you are kicking and screaming to get back in, and although things weren’t that great, anyplace is better than being homeless!!
Reality check: You are out in the cold and dark. You can’t go back and you are clueless as how to move forward. So what do you do now?
Breathe!! That’s step one: Do not underestimate step one as it oxygenates the brain cells!
Step two: Honestly write down what you think went wrong. Remember this is NOT about blaming someone else. It’s about making a true assessment of the situation. Giving up blame allows you to move forward. Playing the victim keeps you powerless and stuck. So what was it? A breakdown in communication? Bad money management? Bad judge of character? Were you over compensating or selfish?
Once you have identified the problem, ask yourself why? If you overcompensated in a relationship was it because you were afraid they wouldn’t stick around ? If you are in debt is it because you have never been taught how to work with money or save? By figuring out what it was, you can take active steps to not repeat the same mistake in the future.
Step three: Get a visual image of what you want your life to look like. Once you have figured out what you do not want, what you would not like to experience in your life; Do not focus on it! Now is the time to focus on what you do want your life to look like. I’m willing to bet that people who did not get the life they dreamed of, did not dream of that life often enough. They say that the mind cannot tell the difference between an imagined event and a real one. I know that when I visualise myself healthy and strong, doing exercises and eating healthy food, I immediately feel a rush of energy, I involuntarily feel my body moving and I feel stronger! Now you just have to keep that picture in mind long enough to move with it.
Step four: Once you have the picture in mind, you have to move with it. Moving with it means that you have to take symbolic actions in the direction of the dream. If you want to go on holiday in Croatia for example; start planning it! Go online to see the sights, check out the local dishes, see which hotels you would like to stay in and check out flight availability for the date you would like to leave. I dreamed of going to Italy and started learning Italian way before it was even a possibility for me to go, but once I got there I could already communicate. In short, in your mind you should be living your dream more than you live the ‘reality’ of your situation.
Caution: There is a part of the brain, mine at least that will caution me to be realistic. Do not listen to it! It is pessimism gift wrapped as realism. Reality is a just a current assessment of a current situation. The problem with our brains is that we get into an unpleasant situation and we think it will always be that way. Wrong! It wasn’t always that way and it doesn’t need to be either.
There is a way out of the cold but it takes a vision and persistence to find the path that’s right for you.
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
I am the GREAT I AM
I am more than just a lonely figure on the far facing reaches of the earth
I am man, I am in a continual state of rebirth
I am born of this soil, bone made of rock, and body moulded of clay
I take form in the silent empty thought; behold all creatures I announce the break of day
And at noon time, I am risen. I am alive and bask in the light of the Sun
Our energies exchange as we circulate and radiate for indeed, the Sun and the Son are One
I take shade and rest under the branches of a tree, and as I eat of its fruits and nourish my body I know that the tree is a part of me
I am man, moved by the flow of life, the constant fountain of joy
I dance and I sing with gratitude for the creation, I am here to enjoy
And at dawn as I sit by the waters edge and contemplate who I am
I know that I am more than mortal
I am the GREAT I AM
Tarryn Tomlinson (2009)
I am man, I am in a continual state of rebirth
I am born of this soil, bone made of rock, and body moulded of clay
I take form in the silent empty thought; behold all creatures I announce the break of day
And at noon time, I am risen. I am alive and bask in the light of the Sun
Our energies exchange as we circulate and radiate for indeed, the Sun and the Son are One
I take shade and rest under the branches of a tree, and as I eat of its fruits and nourish my body I know that the tree is a part of me
I am man, moved by the flow of life, the constant fountain of joy
I dance and I sing with gratitude for the creation, I am here to enjoy
And at dawn as I sit by the waters edge and contemplate who I am
I know that I am more than mortal
I am the GREAT I AM
Tarryn Tomlinson (2009)
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
How to get the best results while waiting.
Tick-toc, tick-toc, toc goes the clock
In this pic: Emma Scarafiotti
This morning i felt my patience REALLY been tested! Especially since I really have been patient, and it seems that the more patient I am, the more 'certain' people think that I can wait!
So as you can imagine I was about to blow a gasket, and call whoever I could to get the situation sorted out when I realised that I had been given a chance to practice what I believe. And to practice what I believe consistently.
So when one tries to foster a virtue, especially one like patience, it is important to understand that to truly feel OK with waiting, a higher perspective is needed of the situation.
I believe in the universal principle of right timing, now although I am not referring to any particular religion, it is a principle that can be found in all religious disciplines. It is a universal principle that in today's world of striving is very hard to align with.
I believe that there is a perfect timing in this universe for everything. I believe this because I have experienced synchronicity many, many times. After the synchronistic event has taken place I always marvel at the chain of events that had to take place at the exact time at each link of the chain. I always marvel at the perfect coordination and try to puzzle the pieces of chance in my mind, 'If I had not missed that bus, or if we had not lost that booking or if I had not turned back to answer the phone'. I also know that I could never coordinate life so precisely, at least the limited, rational, impatient part of me. I think the reason why fostering patience is so hard is because:
So how do we put this principle into practice? Here are some thoughts for you to ponder that could help you get the best results while waiting. Think about this before you find yourself in a situation where you have to wait, as you are likely to go back to your habitual way of thinking at that moment.
I hate delay, I cannot stay
my thoughts run a muck
If only I can find a way to make it move my way
And all the while it sits there, firm as if to stay.
Tick-toc, no luck, tick-toc, no luck !!!
This morning i felt my patience REALLY been tested! Especially since I really have been patient, and it seems that the more patient I am, the more 'certain' people think that I can wait!
So as you can imagine I was about to blow a gasket, and call whoever I could to get the situation sorted out when I realised that I had been given a chance to practice what I believe. And to practice what I believe consistently.
So when one tries to foster a virtue, especially one like patience, it is important to understand that to truly feel OK with waiting, a higher perspective is needed of the situation.
I believe in the universal principle of right timing, now although I am not referring to any particular religion, it is a principle that can be found in all religious disciplines. It is a universal principle that in today's world of striving is very hard to align with.
I believe that there is a perfect timing in this universe for everything. I believe this because I have experienced synchronicity many, many times. After the synchronistic event has taken place I always marvel at the chain of events that had to take place at the exact time at each link of the chain. I always marvel at the perfect coordination and try to puzzle the pieces of chance in my mind, 'If I had not missed that bus, or if we had not lost that booking or if I had not turned back to answer the phone'. I also know that I could never coordinate life so precisely, at least the limited, rational, impatient part of me. I think the reason why fostering patience is so hard is because:
- We are not aware that we live in synchronistic harmony.
- We do not know that everything is in harmony and if we just let go, everything falls into place.
- We live in the times of instant gratification.
So how do we put this principle into practice? Here are some thoughts for you to ponder that could help you get the best results while waiting. Think about this before you find yourself in a situation where you have to wait, as you are likely to go back to your habitual way of thinking at that moment.
- Write down all the synchronistic events that you remember. Feel the awe you felt when these events took place (It's important to feel the amazement)
- Realize that you hadn't controlled any of those events with your conscious mind. And everything worked out perfectly.
- Ponder the fact that such harmonious chance occurrences are not a one time event, but a life time event, which you can experience when you let go of the control.
- Start using affirmations which could help ground you in the moment such as; 'I am where I am and everything is OK' or 'Everything is working out in my favor' .
- Have courage for the great sorrows of life and patience for the small ones; and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily tasks, go to sleep. God is awake
Victor Hugo (1802-1885)
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