New Age Nonsense

Hokes pokes, magic smagic, new age mumbo jumbo! Close your eyes, visualize, pretend that you are great!

Look rich, act the part, even if you don’t have a cent, pretend that you live in luxury even if there’s no money to pay the rent!
Love your neighbor; give her praise, even if she’s a bitch. These are just a few of the tricks to help you to get rich!

Imagine yourself, living in perfect health, even if you have a tumour growing in your lung. And when you are laying there in your sick bed please...for heaven’s sake don’t look so glum!

Pretend that you don’t have a care, when you know that your husband is having an affair. Think a beautiful thought of him every day, to prevent him, from slipping away.

Those are not wrinkles on your face!! They are laughing lines, signifying grace. You have been well informed of your spiritual worth, and you do know that this is heaven on earth? Oh no?!

Well, then we must proceed to change the books you read. I have a list of eBooks, on xp, that I could borrow you if you need?

Hokes Pokes, magic smagic, those author’s all say the same. They want to delude us; into thinking that we are Gods’ and life is just a big cosmic game!

I hope you are smiling? I am, and it maybe of some surprise to you to know that I am one of those people who believes in the new age mumbo jumbo. I have read the books, visualised, affirmed, and prayed, chanted, said invocations. Burnt incent sticks, mixed aromatherapy oils; I have studied Japanese energy medicine. Took concoctions that tasted like…..I’d rather not say. Been poked, stuck with needles, I’ve had my chakra’s balanced, I’ve had my polar energies aligned, and then realigned, I’ve been on diets consisting of all raw, natural food, and I have consumed in my lifetime, about 50 gallons of green tea (I have no idea how much a gallon is, but it sounds alot). And why? I was in the pursuit of health, happiness, dreams, magic and romance. Was it worth it? Absolutely!

Life before all the Hokes Pokes was just hard and getting harder. I couldn’t understand who I was nor why I was on this earth. Neither could I understand why I or anybody else had to suffer. What was it all for? Was God trying to play a cruel trick on us? Was I being punished? Was there even a God to begin with?

Well I got my answers slowing but surely. Consistently studying the different forms of healing and the different modalities of prayer and self-study was like peeling back the layers of an onion. The outer layers representing the physical manifestations of our lives whether pleasant or not. The middle layers representing the beliefs and thoughts that we have about ourselves and life which subsequently creates the outer layers . And the inner core representing the formless heart of all creations; past, present and future. The inner stillness that has the power to change any of the other levels instantly. The road of self-discovery is not an easy one. There are so many different ways from which to approach it. Apart from that there are also many unpleasant things back there that we really don’t want to deal with. So why would anybody willingly go look for the pain? Ouch! Well most of us don’t want to deal with it and so we block it out and develop our coping mechanisms. Whether it be smoking, drinking, neurotic obsessions with being thin or beautiful or keeping our houses clean, being judgemental, over-eating etc.

Some of us although, dare to go down the road of self discovery, and what we discover is that life is nothing like what we had previously thought. And the work of self discovery is never done. By coming to understanding who we are, we begin to see our relationship to life and other people in a different light. But the real ah-ha moment comes when we begin to grasp that we participate in the creation of our lives. When we begin to understand that we are not victims but that we have carefully constructed our lives to be exactly as it is (even if we did it unconsciously). Everything in our lives is there because of a belief that we hold, and once we discover that belief and challenge it, effortlessly our lives will begin to change.

One of my greatest stumbling blocks on the road was thinking that there was a ‘right way to do this’ That there was a certain ‘thing’ to do and that if I wasn’t doing it then I wasn’t going to get the results I wanted. This caused me a lot of stress and actually has been counterproductive in producing the results I wanted. Well there is no one way to self discovery! Now I’m learning to trust my intuition completely. We are all different and complex and the self healing path too, is unique to each person and is complex.

For example, If I don’t feel like being in the presence of a certain person it means that they aren’t good for me in that moment in time, and that I should trust my guidance and stay away from them. Before I would have allowed myself to be in their presence so that I could learn to accept them or to be a good friend etc. But this never worked for me! I’d always leave more frustrated and think, ‘why did I just not stay away?’ Love they neighbour is a lesson we would all be better off learning, but I’ve realised that if I’m not feeling up for it, then it means I’m not ready!! And that’s ok!!! I’ll learn that lesson at a different time and space when I am ready.

The road to self discovery is more than being about drinking herbal teas, chanting, yoga and balancing chakras is about being true to yourself. Every step of the way.

‘Follow your heart’ is a phrase I’ve heard many times before and I’m dedicated to do that no matter where my heart may lead or whether it makes me popular or not.

Hokes Pokes Magic Smagic....roll it off your tongue. Alice fell down the rabbit hole and my journey’s just begun.

A True Sense Of Self.

This blog is not about 'how to' be truly yourself or 'how to' gain a better sense of self. For a high self-esteem is something that is born out of many hours and pain and hard work! And there really is no short cut around this one. There are no '4 easy steps,' or 'One magic secret'. Each person has a unique set of insecurities that they acquired long ago, and developing a good self-esteem, comes from facing each one of those head on. Getting to the root of the problem, until it no longer affect you and your life.

What I felt like writing about today was how to identify a false sense of self; which is born from a perception of lack, and feelings of unworthiness. And another your true self, which is born from a perception of abundance and worthiness.

Sometimes it can be very hard to distinguish between the two. OK, so now I'll tell you why I think it is important to distinguish between the two. It's important for resolving conflict. It's important for you to know where you truly are on the scale of things and it is important for you to identify peoples' behaviours and motives.

For example; How many times has that person who works with you in your office just rubbed you up the wrong way when they boastfully want to give you advice on how to do your job, or when they try to belittle you in front of others? You know, the type of person who knows that they do a good job and LOVES telling everyone else how wonderful he or she thinks they are? Or the type of person who seems so powerful, who goes around intimidating those around them. The person 'You don't want to mess with.'

How would you feel about them if you knew that their behaviour is motivated by a feeling of weakness and fear?

There vulnerability seems so contrary to what they are showing on the outside. Let me tell you this....Nobody who feels good about themselves needs to be; boastful, snobbish, intimidating, rude, judgemental, envious,aggressive, a victim, or a down right bitch! These are all signs of someone who feels; less than, unworthy, insecure,hopeless and defenseless.

A true sense of self, is when you can look in the mirror (naked), and love what you see. When you can admire the person you are, when you can look at your behavioural imperfections and see them as points to grow on. When you can comfortably be happy with where you are at in life and when you can look away from yourself and into the world and be happy with what you see out there.

You can know that you are gaining a truer sense of self if you can identify yourself in this list; you truly are happy when someone gets a promotion, gets married or lives there dreams. You no longer need to compare yourself to others in anyway. You have less opinions of how other people should run their lives. You don't see your failures as a reason to beat up on yourself and give up. You are generally happy with your life. You are grateful more often. You love your body and you are not waiting for someone else to change before you are happy!

Remember there are billions of people on this earth, each one is uniquely different,not just physically but culturally, and with different talents which makes comparing such a big waste of time. I truly believe that if we spent less time measuring ourselves against others, our true selves would grow to immeasurable heights.

Tomorrows article is about why we feel so insecure to begin with! Where does that all come from.