Your nose and his sense of security.

What is it about us women, that makes us think that we are not worthy because of the way we look? I was chatting with a girlfriend the other day, when she was mentioning a bunch of her physical imperfections and how if she had the money she would redo her nose, her breasts and her legs etc etc. We then proceeded to have a conversation about men, and she started moaning about how it is impossible to find a good man or any man for that matter of fact.

I felt like hitting her on the head with a book, and saying, 'Of course it's impossible for you to find a man. You hate yourself! If you can't find something in yourself worth loving, what chance does a man have of finding something in you worth noticing?'

I have to admit that I too was a woman who thought that a man could only love me because I had something physical to offer. And of course what I thought I had to offer was not alot, as my list of imperfections left only the adoration of my ears.

I then started to love myself and realise that who I am is not a list of physical features. I mean I had a long list of great qualities such as; I am kind, intelligent, compassionate, supportive, faithful, loving, joyful, a good listener, a motivator, funny and a whole lot more. I still have alot to work on but I began to realise that all any human beings want is to be loved, supported and appreciated for that which they are. This is what it means to love and be loved. Somehow we lost this perspective.

We women love watching chick flicks, and we love the romance of it all. So I ask you this. Have you ever heard the lead male character tell the girl, 'Your nose gives me a sense of security' or 'Your hair makes me happy' or 'Your thighs makes me feel like a better man'? No!

Who you are gives value to another human being, not what you look like. Come on girls there are a whole lot of men in this world who are waiting to be loved, supported and appreciated for who they are. This is a job way too important for boobs, small or big!

If you are looking to have a more meaningful relationship you gotta step out of the shallows, and fall in love with yourself first.